Mind Reading

Sometimes I wish I could read my husband's mind. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to read people's minds when you need to?
I mean, I'm convinced that most of the time people are not thinking what we assume they are thinking.
So, I am trying to change my way of thinking and assuming. Like assuming general goodwill and kindness. So much crap happens because people think other people are judging them, you know? Like highschool cliques and way beyond that.... Think about it.

If you really believed that everyone around you liked you and saw you like Jesus sees you wouldn't you be different?

Realistically, I guess we won't ever read minds, and there are other forces at work that draw out the worst in people, and they do judge each other so....
It's also important to not chalk up our value to what people think. Basically, not caring what anyone thinks.

And you hear that a lot, right? -- "don't care what people think" -- and usually it does nothing to help our confidence because it's not a switch you can just turn off in your head.

I'm pretty sure that every human being wants to feel worth *something* and honestly, something really valuable.

So what I'm getting at is that if we can't base our coolness on other people than we have to get it from somewhere else, and somewhere else that is so big that what people think subconsciously just begins to slip out of our minds, off our backs, etc.

I just get really fed up with those "feel good about yourself"messages that scream "Just don't listen to everyone else!!" when:

a) I'd have to listen to them (isn't that an oxymoron?) to start not listening to people

b) I want, need, crave to be beautiful/successful/loved and I can't get that from chanting to myself, "I'm beautiful, Heather, believe me, you're a doll" you know? : )

I honestly don't know what it looks like to 100% really not be impressed by the thoughts of other people because you believe so strongly that the One being who made everything perfectly is actually personally interested in you and tells you exactly how valuable you are.
But I want to.